“HOLY SEX” were the first two words that Dr. Tom Hamilton, a Florida College professor, uttered yesterday in his lecture “Not in Passion of Lust.”
In the lecture book Tom wrote, “If Christians were honest with themselves, “holy sex” sounds like the greatest of all oxymorons. In any number of church buildings, the word ‘sex’ is yet to be mentioned (unless it is spelled ‘sects’), being considered a taboo topic for public proclamation.”
Preceding Hamilton’s lecture, Mark Broyles, a gospel preacher from San Antonio, Texas, spoke on “The Spiritual Nature of the Sexual Relationship.” Although each speaker had a specific objective, these two lessons combined, by Hamilton and Broyles, offered one of the most in-depth, Bible based, and insightful explanations of human sexuality from a spiritual perspective that I’ve ever heard by a gospel preacher.
Mark observed that “God created us in His image as sexual beings.” While God is a Spirit and not a sexual being, He chose to make us male and female, body and spirit, with sexual desires. Both Broyles and Hamilton Biblically obliterated the notion that somehow sexual feelings and relationships are somehow “unholy,” or even “dirty.”
“Are my pleasure and my holiness inherently contradictory to one another?” asked Mark. “Is possible that God created us with strong urges and desires that can be richly fulfilled and yet our holiness not be tainted? he further probed. “Yes,” is the answer. “It is not only possible, it is true.”
Many passages were offered dealing with sexuality from a spiritual perspective. However, the main passages dealt with by both speakers were 1 Corinthians 7:1-6, 1Thessalonians 4:3-8 and numerous excerpts from the Song of Solomon, a book I remember Homer Hailey calling “God’s book on true mating love.”
These passages teach that all sexual activity is placed by God within the confines of marriage. All such activity outside of holy matrimony is sexual immorality (1 Cor 6:18-20, Heb 13:4). As Christians, our relationship is not to be based on lust, but love. True love. Divine love. God’s love. Furthermore, there is to be a mutual submission in the sexual relationship of husbands and wives. Selfish demands, lustful passions, and carnal attitudes have no place in a Christian marriage.
“The Bible affirms the goodness of the sexual relationship as a gift of God,” Mark wrote in the lecture book. He offered several passages from the Song of Solomon that celebrate this union with “erotic and explicit imagery about the physical intimacy that is to be enjoyed to its fullness within the marriage relationship as God intended.”
1 How beautiful are your feet in sandals,
O noble daughter!
Your rounded thighs are like jewels,
the work of a master hand.
2 Your navel is a rounded bowl
that never lacks mixed wine.
Your belly is a heap of wheat,
encircled with lilies.
3 Your two breasts are like two fawns,
twins of a gazelle.
4 Youry neck is like an ivory tower.
Youreyes are pools in Heshbon,
by the gate of Bath-rabbim.
Your nose is like a tower of Lebanon,
which looks toward Damascus.
5 Your head crowns you like Carmel,
and your flowing locks are like purple;
a king is held captive in the tresses.
6 How beautiful and pleasant you are,
O loved one, with all your delights!
7 Your stature is like a palm tree,
and your breasts are like its clusters.
While some of the imagery may sound a bit strange to our modern ears, the over all intent is clear. This man’s desire and attention is focused on his wife’ body. Her beauty. And his anticipation of making love to her. When understood in the context of our holiness and within God’s restrictions, this is a beautiful, spiritual relationship.
Sadly, as Tom Hamilton observed, ‘Many Christian parents fail to educate their own children on God’s design for human sexuality, abdicating that responsibility to our humanist educational system, our godless media, and our secular culture at large.” Of course, maybe the reason parents fail at teaching this vital subject, is because they have failed to understand and it apply it in their own relationship.
Both lectures were presented with sensitivity, seriousness and most of all ample Scripture. I highly recommend purchasing the lecture book as well as the audio recordings of these lectures through the Florida College Bookstore.
Never forget, “Marriage is honorable among all, and the bed undefiled; but fornicators and adulterers God will judge.” (Heb 13:4).
–Ken Weliever, The Preacherman