October 23, 2021 · 6:29 am
Good morning from the Great Smoky Mountains,
One of the things I wanted to do when I stepped away from “full time, located preaching,” 3 1/2 years ago was spend a couple weeks in the Fall in the mountains. Except for our honeymoon here 53 years ago, we’ve never had the time to come for more than 2-3 days at a time.
We’ve been blessed that this is 4th consecutive year to be here the last two weeks of October. But an even greater blessing is the connection we’ve made with the brethren at the Cosby church of Christ and their preacher Olie Williamson and his sweet wife, Mary. They are lovely folks. Kind. Compassionate. And just the “salt of the earth” kind of people. Continue reading →
October 22, 2021 · 4:22 am
“Forgiveness is never easy. But forgiving yourself can be the most challenging type of forgiveness out there,” observed Psychologist, Dr. Brad Brenner.
“Like it or not, self-forgiveness takes work that requires both compassion and empathy,” Brenner wrote in a post “How To Forgive Yourself: Moving On From the Past.”
Brenner points out that a mistake, error in judgment, or even an egregious moral failure, does not have to define who we are. While the action was wrong, we can rise above it. Make amends for it. Grow from it. And become a bigger and better person. Continue reading →
October 21, 2021 · 4:21 am
“Choosing not to forgive yourself is like being the judge, jury, and defendant of your life all at once,” wrote Dr. John Delony a mental health expert who earned two Ph.D.’s from Texas Tech University.
“We put ourselves on trial on an almost daily basis and write our own sentence of condemnation,” Delony observed. “Most of us talk to ourselves in ways that we would never let someone talk to our kids or our neighbors. But we have no problem condemning ourselves. The good news about self-forgiveness is that you can choose to slam down the gavel, dismiss the court, and let yourself off the stand.” Continue reading →
October 20, 2021 · 4:20 am
“Just as we get angry with other people, we become angry with ourselves for not doing better and making fewer mistakes,” wrote Drs. Frank Minirth and Paul Meier, who are both Psychiatrists and Christian counselors, in their wonderful book Happiness is a Choice.
“We are often critical with ourselves and harder on ourselves than we are on other people,” they observe. “We need to forgive ourselves of past mistakes and sin. God is aware of our weaknesses.”
There are many reasons why people fail to forgive themselves, but we observed three in yesterday’s post, which you ought to read first. This second of a four-part series will consider three consequences of not forgiving ourselves. Continue reading →
October 19, 2021 · 4:19 am
In his book, The Gift of Forgiveness, Dr. Charles Stanley, tells a true story about a 16-year-old girl named Patsy who came to him confused and desperate.
When she was only 13 she became sexually involved with an 18-year-old boy. This relationship continued for two years until he moved to another state. Feeling “dirty and guilty,” and distraught by his departure, she sought private counseling.
Sadly she became involved with the 30-year-old counselor on whom she had depended for help. Unable to talk to her parents about this she turned to Dr. Stanley. Continue reading →