Overcoming The Agony of Defeat

With the winter Olympics beginning soon the name Vinko Bogatej comes to mind. Anyone remember him?

He was a ski-jumper from Yugoslavia who, while competing in the 1970 World Ski-Flying Championship in Obertsdorf, West Germany, fell off the takeoff ramp and landed on his head.

A film crew from Wide World of Sports was recording the event when Bogatej crashed. The show featured host Jim McCay with the narration “The thrill of victory….and the agony of defeat.” with a montage of sports clips showing celebrations of sports victories. Bogatej’s failed jump was inserted to illustrate the defeat.

Bogatej was hospitalized, but recovered and returned to competition. Later he became a ski instructor and then a coach. He’s married and has two daughters. Today, he has turned his hobby of painting into a successful venture with exhibits in both Europe and the U.S.

Years later Bogatej was interviewed, unaware of his celebrity and was surprised that his failed jump was played thousands of times on U.S. television. At the 20th anniversary of The Wide World of Sports, he was invited to attend and “received the loudest ovation of any athlete at the gala.”

Bogatej reminds us that failure does not have to be final. Nor does it need to be fatal. As William Brown once wrote, “Failure is an event never a person.”

I was reminded of that truth this week while reading Mark’s account of Peter’s denial of Jesus.

Jesus told the apostles on the eve of his arrest and trial, “You will all fall away.”

Characteristically Peter boasted, “Even if all fall away, I will not.”

Jesus responded, “Before the rooster crows twice, you will deny me three times.”

But Peter emphatically insisted, “Even if I have to die with you, I will never disown you.” (Mk. 14:27-31).

What occurred next is well known to Bible students. Following Jesus’ arrest, Peter was accused of being a disciple of Jesus. Peter denied. Once. Twice. And the third time the Bible records that he cursed and swore, “I don’t know this man you’re talking about.”

Immediately the rooster crowed the second time. And Peter remembered the words of Jesus.

Failure. It hung in the air on that chilly night. It impacted Peter emotionally. Mentally. Physically. And spiritually. Peter had done the thing he never thought he would do. He denied Jesus. He forsook his Savior. He fell. He failed.

The Bible says that Peter “went out and wept bitterly” (Mt. 26:75).

Can you relate to Peter’s bitter tears of shame? Can you imagine the haunting thoughts that filled his mind? The feeling of failure? The heartbreak? The embarrassment? The disgrace? The dishonor? The agony of defeat?

To a lesser or greater degree, we’ve all been there. No one is perfect. Everyone has the moments where they have not lived up to what they know is right. Times of trial. Times we’ve quit. Times of suffering, where we’ve given up. Times of temptation where we’ve given in.

Sometimes life is tough. And then sometimes it gets tougher.

But there is good news. You can overcome failure. You can defeat defeat. You can regain what you lost. You can find forgivness. You can begin again. Peter did. And so can you.

Peter’s remorse led to repentance, restoration, and reconciliation. Jesus forgave Peter. His fellow apostles welcomed him back into their inner circle. And so he stood up boldly on the day of Pentecost and preached Jesus. He called for his hearers to “repent and be baptized for the remission of sins.”

Scripture records that Peter did not live a mistake-free life, even after his denial. But never allowed his failures to make him a failure. He knew how to examine himself. Admit his shortcomings. And start over.

You don’t have to wallow in the shame of failure or the agony of defeat. You can get up. Make a fresh start. And move on toward the goal.

There is help. There is hope. There is Jesus.

You can move from failure to forgiven.

–Ken Weliever, The Preacherman

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2 responses to “Overcoming The Agony of Defeat

  1. A very nice reminder that although we all fail, there is always forgiveness and restoration in Jesus Christ. When Jesus does finally restore Peter, it is so beautifully done, as we can read in John 21:15-19, “When they had finished eating, Jesus turned to Peter, “Simon, son of John, do you truly love me more than these?” I like how in the Greek when Jesus asked Peter the third time Jesus uses the higher form of love which the translaters into Greek translated as “agape.”
    The last exchange of “Do you really love me, Jesus uses a different form of word, which in the Greek is “agape”, but in our English versions we have the same word, so most Christians do not really know what kind of question Jesus is probing Peter with.

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