A Sexless, Unconventional Marriage

New York socialites Quentin Esme Brown and Peter Cary Peterson got married last weekend in Las Vegas. But it’s not a typical, traditional marriage.

“He has always been my soulmate in every sense of the word and we felt mutually that Vegas was the place to finalize our commitment to partnership,” Brown posted on Instagram. “Peter and I are not romantically involved — in fact we are still dating others and will continue to seek love in all forms.”

According to an article on Yahoo Lifestyle, Brown and Peterson have been best friends for years, and have taken what Peterson said, “a progressive step towards what we believe marriage should be.” According to the report, “they’re planning to make theirs a sexless, open marriage” as they both date others.

Susan Pease Gadoua, a licensed therapist and co-author of The New “I Do,” admitted she didn’t know anyone else with this kind of marriage but believes it fits fine with people’s new views about relationships needs.

“We don’t need to get married for any of the reasons we used to,” Gadoua tells Yahoo Lifestyle. “Once you’ve got everything else in place, it is like the cherry on top.”

Brown also put a statement on Instagram, saying, “I am confident my husband and I will break some walls down,” she wrote.

‘To me, it seems like they’re creating a family out of two people;” Maryland-based psychologist Samantha Rodman told Yahoo Lifestyle. ”It’s a family member you can always count on,”

Furthermore, Gadoua opined that this polyamorous arrangement might be a better alternative to divorce. However, “Where the complications are going to come in is when people outside their relationship look at it like, ‘I don’t want to get involved in that,” she admitted. It’s going to make it a little bit more complicated for them to find partners who understand.”

So, let’s get this straight. Brown and Peterson are best friends and now legally married. They want to enjoy companionship, the benefits of marriage minus a sexual relationship. And, of course, each enjoy romantic interests outside their marriage.

What will people think of next to circumvent God’s plan for the family and marital relationships?

In the beginning, when God made man, He said, “It is not good for man to be alone, I will make a helper suitable for him.” Nothing in the animal kingdom was appropriate, so God made woman. Eve became Adam’s wife. The Bible says “the two became one flesh” referring to their sexual union. They “were both naked and felt no shame’ (Gen 2:18-25).

The nuclear family is not something created by culture, but ordered  by Divine decree. Jesus affirmed the Father’s arrangement of the home as one man for one woman for life (Matt. 19:4-6). He said God joined them together. “And the two shall become one flesh.”

In that relationship a husband and wife enjoy companionship, commitment, support, security, affection and sexual fulfillment. The Bible instructs that to avoid sexual immorality “each man should have his own wife, and each woman her own husband. The husband should fulfill his marital duty to his wife, and likewise the wife to her husband” (1 Cor 7:1-4). Indeed “Marriage is honorable among all, and the bed undefiled (Heb 13:4).

The wise man counseled his son to enjoy the pleasures of marriage with his wife. “Rejoice with the wife of your youth…may her breasts satisfy you always and may you ever be intoxicated with her love” (Prov 5:18-19).

In this intimate relationship, children are to be born, raised and nurtured by a father and mother who love them and train them in the way of the Lord (Eph. 6:1-4).

Sadly, our society is constantly seeking other outlets to replace God’s perfect plan for the home, family and raising children. All  other arrangements will ultimately fail.

The Brown-Peterson marriage model is not only unconventional, it’s unscriptural.

–Ken Weliever, The Preacherman


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3 responses to “A Sexless, Unconventional Marriage

  1. This is a stunning development. Didn’t see it coming but I guess I should have.


  2. Reblogged this on ThePreachersWord and commented:

    This January post has been reblogged numerous times and received the 2nd most hits in 2018.


  3. These two clearly need attention. They did not need “marriage” for what they say they want to establish. They could have made no legal arrangement or they could have become incorporated. This is a terrible use of the marriage sacrament. Ken, thanks for another great piece.


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