How do you show love in the home? A quick Google search reveals 806,000,000 answers to this question in just .77 seconds!
The answers include: “100 Ways You Can Love Your Husband.” “100 Ways You Can Love Your Wife.” If that sounds overwhelming, then there is “10 Ways To Show Your Spouse Love.” Or just “3 Ways To Show Your Love.” Of course, we don’t want to leave out the kids, so you can learn “7 Ways to Show Your Kids Love.”
Now if you want to dig a little deeper and go beyond internet sites, Amazon offers 332,464 books on the topic of love in your family.
But my facebook friend and real life friend, Jan Coffman, has simplified the topic with her new family plague posted above. I like it. A lot. And I thought you would too.
What I like is that the sentiments expressed ring true and have a Biblical basis. Often times words on a plague are simply platitudes that are unrealistic and unobtainable. Or they may be untrue. Or unscriptural. Too often love is defined by modern culture in terms that are strictly physical, emotional, or sensual.
Jan’s plaque identifies love with only 8 words. But they say so much. They either state or imply several Biblical concepts and principles. Aren’t these 8 words an application of 1 Corinthians 13:4-8?
“This love of which I speak is slow to lose patience—it looks for a way of being constructive. It is not possessive: it is neither anxious to impress nor does it cherish inflated ideas of its own importance.”
“ Love has good manners and does not pursue selfish advantage. It is not touchy. It does not keep account of evil or gloat over the wickedness of other people. On the contrary, it is glad with all good men when truth prevails.”
“Love knows no limit to its endurance, no end to its trust, no fading of its hope; it can outlast anything. It is, in fact, the one thing that still stands when all else has fallen” (J. B. Phillips)
The Preacher of Ecclesiastes wrote, “Life joyfully with your wife whom you love all the days of your life.” And the wise man counseled, “Rejoice with the wife of your youth…and always be enraptured with her love.” (Eccl. 9:9; Prov. 5:18-19).
And then there is this exhortation to children. “Listen, my son, to your father’s instruction and do not forsake your mother’s teaching. They will be a garland to grace your head and a chain to adorn your neck. y son, if sinners entice you, do not give in to them.” (Prov 1:8-10)
The 9 words on Jan’s plaque speak volumes. They require total commitment to God’s plan for the family. They call for open communication. Compromise when differences arise. And cooperation to solve problems. They imply courtship after marriage. Cherishing one another. And comforting and consoling each other. They speak to our highest aspirations to cleave to one another.
All of these words suggests action. They remind us that for love to flourish, it must be actively and diligently nourished and nurtured. Passivity will dampen love. Diminish its impact. And eventually love will die.
Thanks Jan for the advice. The encouragement. And the inspiration. I commend it to our readers.
–Ken Weliever, The Preacherman