IT’S FRIDAY. BUT SUNDAY’S COMING! In Honor and Memory of Ted Brewer

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I’ve said it before.  I hate death.  I hate the sorrow it brings.  I hate the emptiness it leaves.  I hate the relationships it ruptures.  I hate the burden it bears.

And Death ever lurks.  Looking over our shoulder.  Sneering. Leering.  Waiting to strike.  Leaving its hurt.  And about the time we’ve had some healing, death invades our homes and hearts again.

It seems to be happening all too often lately.  Last Sunday I received one of the calls.  I knew by the voice.  The tone.  The words that said, “Have you heard…..”  This time is was my friend Ted Brewer.  

I was stunned. Shocked. Dazed.  Death had struck once again.  It was like a punch in the gut.  It was sudden. Startling. Unexpected.

His death is difficult to accept. He has left us too soon. Far too soon. And yet we know the words of the Hebrew writer, “It is appointed once for man to die” (Heb. 9:27).

So, I dedicate my Friday column to Ted Brewer.  To his life.  Memory.  And eternal hope.

Norma Jean and I hurt for his lovely and loyal wife, Vicki.  His mother, Fylma.  His son, Brad. His daughters Laura and Angie.  His sisters Betty and Pam.  His grandchildren.

I’ve known the Brewer family all my life.  I was only 16 when I started preaching in central Indiana and spoke for churches were Ted’s parents and grandparents attended. I used to tease him that he was a little kid (about 12) back then.  He would grin and say, “I still am.”  We’ve stayed in their home many times; and they stayed with us.  I’ve preached where Ted was an elder.  We’ve traveled together. Laughed together.  And cried together.

He was the kind of friend that even if you didn’t see each other for awhile, you could just pick up where you left off the last time.  I’m going to miss his infectious grin.  His positive attitude.  His vibrant spirit.

Various facebook tributes have called Ted “a life changer.”   “A spiritual leader.”  “A selfless friend.”  “Loyal.”  “Hardworking.”  “Upbeat.”  “An encourager.” “A giver.” “A man who made a difference.”  And, of course, “always smiling.”  Ted Brewer was a good man.  He was God’s man.

Today, Friday, Ted’s memorial service will be conducted and  I’m reminded of the One  who died on THAT FRIDAY centuries ago.  The sorrow of Ted’s death is tempered by Jesus’ death for him.   And all the rest of us.  Jesus died that we might die to sin.  That we might be saved through His shed blood.  That we can enjoy redemption.  Reconciliation.  And restoration with God.  He died that we might live. Ted believed that.  Embraced it.  Lived it.

The day Jesus died, His mother, Mary, stood at the foot of the cross, weeping, her heart was filled with sorrow, anguish and grief. His friends experienced helplessness.  The apostles were hopeless.   But their discouragement, dismay and despair was soon dispelled.  Tears were turned to smiles.  Sad hearts became joyful. Demoralized spirits were filled with hope.

And why?  What happened?  Sunday!  He arose!  Death could not hold him!  He threw off the shackles of the Devil’s domain, and was victorious over the grave!  Because HE LIVES our disdain for death does not have to dominate us.  It does not control us.  It does not define us.

Because HE LIVES, Ted Brewer’s life was not futile.  Whatever failures he may have experienced in life were not fatal.  And most of all Ted’s death is NOT final.  Because his life was anchored in the bedrock of God’s promise and Jesus’ resurrection, Ted lives!  And we can too!

We will miss our good friend.  His family will mourn.  Earth life will not be the same.  But our spirits are buoyed by this eternal perspective that helps remove death’s foreboding feeling and its solemn prospects.

“So when this corruptible has put on incorruption, and this mortal has put on immortality, then shall be brought to pass the saying that is written: “Death is swallowed up in victory… thanks be to God, who gives us the victory through our Lord Jesus Christ. (1 Cor 15:54,57)

Rest in peace Ted Brewer.  It may be Friday.  But Sunday’s coming!

–Ken Weliever, The Preacherman

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14 responses to “IT’S FRIDAY. BUT SUNDAY’S COMING! In Honor and Memory of Ted Brewer

  1. julie davidson

    Dear Bro. Ken…first of all, i’m sorry for the loss of your friend, & secondly, even though I don’t know the Brewer family, personally, I’m praying for them, today! 🙂 in His love, Julie

  2. Valerie

    Ken, Sorry to hear that the world has lost such a warrior for The Lord; it seems that his life was full of love and service to his Savior. May we all be able to leave such a reputation behind when our time is called. Many blessings and prayers to those who knew Ted and especially for his beloved family.
    With love through Christ, Valerie

  3. Glee

    A very nice tribute Ken to a very dear friend. May Vicki find comfort in friends and family. Gleeretta Turner Scott. (Clinton Turners daughter)

  4. Phil Cavender

    Ken, I am in Phoenix, Arizona, about to speak at a business gathering and I have read your remarks. I type this with tears flowing from my eyes and down my cheeks. Your words are touching and hit a bull eye for accuracy about the life of our dear and beloved friend, Ted Brewer. I have been thinking about Vicki and the Brewer Family all morning here, but these words you have written are so true. We will miss our friend, Ted, but the joy is knowing that someday all the heartaches, disappointments, and exasperations of life will be gone and we can dwell in The House of the Lord, Our God forever. Thank you for your thoughts and your words. Also, thank you for your friendship.

  5. An excellent reminder to all of us. We never know when the clock strikes midnight, so we plan ahead for the inevitable. I pray for the family.

  6. Camille Corley

    Ken,
    Thank you for sharing your heartfelt words about Ted Brewer. I was shocked when I heard on Sunday night of his sudden passing. I had visited with him back earlier in the year at church when I was in Denver visiting our kids and he was on business. And now to know he’s gone, so surreal. He and Vicki were in my class at FC and though I was not close to them, from all I have read of the comments on FB he was a very Godly man and has left a wonderful legacy for all his family to aspire to. A lesson to all of us to live today as if it were our last.

    My heart aches for his family, may God comfort them in the coming weeks and months ahead.

    Love,
    Camille

    • Carolyn Crawford

      So sorry to learn of the passing of Ted. We are so glad to have known both he and Vicky. They were such a joy to be with. Our prayers go out to all the family.

      Tony and Carolyn Crawford

  7. Tonya Harris Sears

    Rest in peace my dear dear friend. To Vicky and the rest of Ted’s family,my thoughts are with you.

  8. Patty Sellers Dukes

    Thank you for expressing so clearly how I have been feeling this week. I just couldn’t get the words to come out exactly right. Ted will be missed by so many that are left behind but I plan to see him again one day when death visits me. My love goes to Vicki and his dear family.

  9. Ritchie Keller

    I have known Ted and Vicki for just a few short years and found them to be incredible people, spirit filled willing to give of their time and talents. I was stunned when I heard the word of Ted’s passing . I have been privileged to enjoy time with them every Tuesday night. I will miss Ted deeply.

  10. Judy Miller

    Very well said, Ken. He was a great teacher, christian and family man. I have known him all his life and admired his family so much. Judy Cantonwine Miller

  11. cody melvin

    AMEN !!!

  12. John Grant

    Missed it the first time and glad I caught it the second. Blessed wishes for a great 2014. John Grant

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