Friday’s List to Live By #53

Edgar Watson Howe once joked, “No man would listen to you talk if he didn’t know it was his turn next.”

Indeed listening is a lost art.

Today’s list is based on John Maxwell’s book, “Becoming a Person of Influence.” In it, Maxwell offers 9 suggestions to help you become a better listener.

How To Develop Better Listening Skills

#1 Look at the speaker.
Give him or her your undivided attention.

#2 Don’t interrupt.
It’s rude. Plus people feel disrespected.

#3 Focus on understanding.
Don’t just hear the words spoken, but look for meaning in what’s being communicated.

#4 Determine the need at the moment.
What does the other person want? Discern the other person’s reason for talking.

#5 Check your emotions.
Never react. Always respond

#6 Suspend your judgment.
Let the other person finish before you draw a conclusion.

#7 Sum up at intervals.
Comment on what you hear and individualize your comments.

#8 Ask questions for clarity.
Learn to ask good, insightful questions about the topic discussed.

#9 Always make listening your priority.
No matter how busy you are, take time to sincerely listen.

He who answers before listening —
that is his folly and his shame.
–Prov. 18:14

–Ken Weliever, The Preacherman

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