Edgar Watson Howe once joked, “No man would listen to you talk if he didn’t know it was his turn next.”
Indeed listening is a lost art.
Today’s list is based on John Maxwell’s book, “Becoming a Person of Influence.” In it, Maxwell offers 9 suggestions to help you become a better listener.
How To Develop Better Listening Skills
#1 Look at the speaker.
Give him or her your undivided attention.
#2 Don’t interrupt.
It’s rude. Plus people feel disrespected.
#3 Focus on understanding.
Don’t just hear the words spoken, but look for meaning in what’s being communicated.
#4 Determine the need at the moment.
What does the other person want? Discern the other person’s reason for talking.
#5 Check your emotions.
Never react. Always respond
#6 Suspend your judgment.
Let the other person finish before you draw a conclusion.
#7 Sum up at intervals.
Comment on what you hear and individualize your comments.
#8 Ask questions for clarity.
Learn to ask good, insightful questions about the topic discussed.
#9 Always make listening your priority.
No matter how busy you are, take time to sincerely listen.
He who answers before listening —
that is his folly and his shame.
–Ken Weliever, The Preacherman
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