Approximately 40% of all children born in the United States now occur out of wedlock, according to a recent Senate report.
“The sharp rise in nonmarital births is a result of a complex mixture of moral, behavioral, and social changes given how the Sexual Revolution overhauled the American landscape,” noted Robert VerBruggen, deputy managing editor of National Review.
“People today generally believe that unlimited sex is an entitlement and that children have only the rights adults choose to give them. This is called ‘reproductive justice,’ because it neutralizes the impact of children on education and career, and supports ‘equality’ between men and women,” said Jennifer Roback Morse, president of the Ruth Institute, in an interview with The Christian Post.
Morse observed that “sex outside of marriage puts the prospective children at risk of experiencing at least one form of injustice. They are either killed via abortion; put at risk of a weak or nonexistent relationship with one parent, often the father; or are placed for adoption, separating the child from their biological parents, at least for the duration of their childhood.” In addition, statics show that children born to a single mother, especially a teenager, will likely grow up in poverty.
“It’s a frustratingly complex picture; and half a century after the Sexual Revolution, with no reversal in sight, these may primarily be academic questions anyway. But if we’re not happy where we are in this regard — and we shouldn’t be, given the harms children have suffered from family breakdown — it can’t hurt to know how we got here,” VerBruggen said.
While sociologists, psychologists, and pundits are concerned about the societal impact of the sexual revolution and out of wedlock births, of greater concern is the spiritual implications. When people reject the moral standards of the Bible, there are physical, relational and cultural consequences. Of course, how we’ve arrived at this state in America is by an utter disregard for God’s Word.
The apostle Paul wrote, “Do not be deceived, God is not mocked; for whatever a man sows, that he will also reap. For he who sows to his flesh will of the flesh reap corruption, but he who sows to the Spirit will of the Spirit reap everlasting life.”
God’s plan for sexual fulfillment is to be enjoyed in the marital relationship. The Bible says, “Let marriage be held in honor among all, and let the marriage bed be undefiled, for God will judge the sexually immoral and adulterous” (Heb 13:4). Thus, the commands to “flee youthful lusts” (2 Tim. 2:22) and “abstain from sexual immorality” (1 Thess. 4:3). The Bible is emphatic. “This is the will of God.”
To be clear, no one is blaming the child. Thankfully, there are many Christians who are adopting children today and are raising them in the “training and admonition of the Lord” (Eph 6:4).
Furthermore, all sin can be forgiven, including sexual immorality, when we repent. We know several who have changed the moral course of their lives, repented of their sin, married and raised their children to be faithful Christians.
Following the teaching of the Bible will not only put us in a right relationship with the Lord, but will improve our lives, strengthen our homes, and solve many of society’s ills.
As my friend and preaching colleague, Edwin Crozier likes to say, “God’s Way Works.”
–Ken Weliever, The Preacherman