Recently my friend and fellow preacher, Ken Green, posted a letter on facebook from the Nashville Tennessean. It was submitted by Dale Spears from Cookville. It’s filled with a lot of common sense.
It has come to my attention that there are a number of people who do not seem to know if they are male or female. They are gender confused. Here are some practical ways to do away with their confusion.
The first idea is for them to look in the mirror without their clothes on. Do they have the equipment of a male or a female? This is a dead giveaway as to which they are. This alone would answer almost all the cases of gender confusion.
If this doesn’t work then they can go to a doctor and ask him which they are. Doctors have studied the human body and should be able to tell you whether you are male or female.
If there is still confusion, then I suggest genetic testing. Look to see if your genes are those of a man or a woman. Every cell in your body tells you what you are.
Now when you find out whether you are male or female you may want to start acting like what you are.
Some people say they feel like a man trapped in a woman’s body, or a woman trapped in a man’s body. If this is the case just consider which is more likely to be right, what you can see with your eyes or what you imagine in your mind.
Reality is the way things are. It is only in our minds that reality can be misunderstood. Reality is as it is, but our minds can imagine what is false, but reality is never false.
Even if an operation changes the outward appearance, still every cell in your body contains your original gender. If our bodies are made one way that is the way we are, no matter what our imaginations may say about it. So, as Shakespeare said, “What ere thou art, act well thy part.”
Dale’s letter is not only full of common sense, but Scriptural principles.
(1) The Bible says God created only two genders. “So God created man in his own image, in the image of God he created him; male and female he created them.” (Gen 1:27). The 58 gender options recently reported by ABC News is of human origin. Not Divine creation.
(2) God is not the source of confusion on this issue. Regarding another issue, the Scripture succinctly states “God is not the author of confusion.” Confusion over gender identity is the result of demonic influences, sensuality and self ambition (Jas. 3:15-16). God made mankind upright. But people have sunk to the level of their basest desires. (Eccl. 7:29).
(3) It is possible to develop inappropriate and unholy feelings. Part of the problem in dealing with issues of gender identity, same-sex marriage, and other disorders is overcoming the claim, “But, that’s just the way I feel. I can’t help it.”
There’s no question that it’s possible to develop inordinate feelings based on unfortunate circumstances, carnal influences, or childhood nurturing, or the lack there of.
Without delving into the area of psychology or medical science for which we are not equipped or trained, it does seem that some people may have a genetic predisposition to certain types of feelings, urges or behavior. It is a timeless debate between the impact of “nature vs. nurture.”
Regardless of the reasons, the Bible acknowledges that certain things may seem or feel right, even when they are not (Prov. 14:12). Constantly God warns us about being self deceived (Jas 1:16; 1 Cor 6:19; Gal. 6:7).
(4) We can rise above our unholy feelings. God has made us creatures of choice. We can decide to engage in godly actions, or stoop to sinful desires.
The war between the flesh and the spirit is clearly identified in Galatians 5:17-24. In this text Paul admonishes, “But I say, walk by the Spirit, and you will not gratify the desires of the flesh. For the desires of the flesh are against the Spirit, and the desires of the Spirit are against the flesh, for these are opposed to each other, to keep you from doing the things you want to do.”
A man may see another man’s wife and feel a desire for her, but he must suppress and defeat that feeling that leads to fornication. For whatever reason, that most of us cannot understand, a man may develop sexual feelings for little children. When caught sexual predators often cry, “I hate myself. But I can’t help my feelings.” But the pedophite must subdue this perverted desire.
I don’t deny that some men are sexually attracted to other men. Or that some people develop confusion about their sexuality or gender. However, God has supplied help, hope and forgiveness by accepting His standard of morality, coming to Christ and obeying the Gospel.
Finally, the words of the American Psychologist O.H. Mowrer are appropriate to apply: “It easier to act yourself into a better way of feeling, than to feel yourself into a better way of acting.”
–Ken Weliever, The Preacherman