A good friend messaged me the other day to share some personal thoughts and mentioned he was rereading Dale Carnegie’s classic book “How To Win Friends and Influence People.”
I recalled it was one of the first books I read regarding relationships when I began preaching. Our exchange triggered the thought to share a few highlights from the book for today’s list. Published in 1936, “How To Win Friends and Influence People” has sold over 30 million copies worldwide, making it one of the best-selling books of all time.
These simple, succinct suggestions, are still valid. And will make a difference in all of your interpersonal relationships.
Six Ways To Make People Like You
1. Become genuinely interested in other people.
3. Remember that a person’s name is to that person the sweetest and most important sound in any language.
4. Be a good listener. Encourage others to talk about themselves.
5. Talk in terms of the other person’s interests.
6. Make the other person feel important – and do it sincerely.
Seven Rules For Making Your Home Life Happier
This section was included in the 1936 edition but omitted in the 1981 revision.
1. Don’t nag.
2. Don’t try to make your partner over.
3. Don’t criticize.
4. Give honest appreciation.
5. Pay little attentions.
6. Be courteous.
7. Read a good book on the sexual side of marriage.
All of this sound a good bit like an application of Philippians 2:3-4. “Let nothing be done through selfish ambition or conceit, but in lowliness of mind let each esteem others better than himself. 4 Let each of you look out not only for his own interests, but also for the interests of others.”
–Ken Weliever, The Preacherman