Bachelorette on show’s sexual relations: ‘I can do whatever, I sin daily and Jesus still loves me’

In a new promotional video for the so-called reality show “The Bachelorette” Hannah Brown is talking with contestant Luke Parker, who is telling her what he thinks about sex.

“Let’s talk about sex and how the marriage bed should be kept pure,” Luke told Hannah.

“Let’s say you have had sex with one or multiple of these guys, I would be wanting to go home,” Luke admitted.

Apparently, Hannah, who professes to be a Christian and was shown praying before meeting the bachelors, was offended by Luke’s comments and confessed she had “physical relations” with some of the other contestants but said “Jesus stills loves her.”

“Regardless of anything that I’ve done, I can do whatever, I sin daily and Jesus still loves me. It’s all washed and if the Lord doesn’t judge me and it’s all forgiven, then no other man, woman … anything can judge me,” Hannah told Entertainment Weekly after the promo aired.

“Nobody’s gonna judge me, I won’t stand for it,” she continued.

According to the promotional clip, however, Hannah seemingly sends Luke home after their “sex” chat and even flips him off as he is leaving.

“My faith that is a big, huge part of me and a lot of times people get Christianity and religion messed up,” Hannah told ET. “Your faith should be something personal and a relationship and it’s not to judge others.”

Now for the record, The Preacherman does not watch “The Bachelorette.” In fact, I never saw the promotional video. My source is from an article in The Christian Post by Charity Gibson.

Hannah’s attitude is characteristic of many people who harbor misconceptions, about sin, grace, religion, and judging.

(1) God’s grace is not a blank check to sin.

Hannah’s retort minds me of the apostle Paul’s anticipated response from his readers when he wrote, “What shall we say then? Are we to continue in sin that grace may abound?”

The answer. “By no means! How can we who died to sin still live in it.”

While all have sinned and fallen short of God’s glory (Rom. 3:23), the frailty of the flesh is not an excuse to willfully and wantonly engage in sinful practices. Planned, persistent, and deliberate sins puts us at odds with the plea of the Bible to “abstain from fleshly lusts which war against the soul” (1 Pet. 2:11).

(2) The Bible teaches that fornication is a sin.

Our culture accepts sexual relationships apart from marriage as being normal, expected and even healthy. But the majority opinion is wrong.

Furthermore, God’s love, grace, and mercy do not excuse sexual relationships outside of marriage. Hebrews 13:4 affirms that “Marriage is honorable among all, and the bed undefiled; but fornicators and adulterers God will judge.”

Paul admonished us to “flee sexual immorality” and says that it is a sin that can keep one from “the Kingdom of God (1 Cor. 6:9-11,18).

(3) God’s love does not ignore our transgressions.

Yes, God loves us. He sent Christ to die for sins. And He is longsuffering. (John 3:16; Rom. 5:8; 2 Pet. 3:9). But this not does mean that God turns a blind eye to our sins. He earnestly desires for us to repent. To change. To be transformed from the deeds, desires, and deceitfulness of this world (Rom. 12:1-2).

(4) Religion and Christianity are not mutually exclusive.

Hannah’s pejorative comment about religion is one that we often hear. Many folks labor under the false notion that they can hold to some personal faith apart from Biblical instruction and be pleasing to God.

God’s Word, however, says something about religion that applies to this issue. “Pure and undefiled religion before God and the Father is this: to visit orphans and widows in their trouble, and to keep oneself unspotted from the world” (Jas 1:27).

The religion of Christ involves both principles and practices that one professing faith ought to believe and embrace.

(5) Not all judging is a sin.

Accusing others of judging is a frequent dodge to deflect the condemnation of our sins. Jesus commanded, “Judge righteous judgment”(Jn. 7:24). Discerning good from evil requires judgment (Heb 5:14). And to obey the exhortation “have no fellowship with the unfruitful works of darkness, but rather expose them” (Eph 5:11) demands judging based on God’s Word.

Let us not excuse our sins or become slaves of sin. Rather may we be servants of Christ. Forgiven and free from the bondage of sin.

–Ken Weliever, The Preacherman


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13 responses to “Bachelorette on show’s sexual relations: ‘I can do whatever, I sin daily and Jesus still loves me’

  1. Berry Kercheville

    Further, Hannah’s accusation of Luke being judgmental is self-condemning since she is condemning Luke for his faith and “won’t stand for it.” Her argument self-destructs.

  2. Stephen Segrest

    Dear Ken, I agreed with everything you said down to the judging part. Maybe, it would help if you clearly define “judging”. If “judging” is defined as calling a sin a sin — then I’m totally on-board. But “judging” usually involves a specific action of punishment. Are Christians called to enact, support, implement secular laws (punishment) for sinning? If so, how do you draw the line? How do you rank sin? Some Christians believe in capital punishment for murder — while some mightly fine Christians (e.g., Bob Owen) do not. Should someone who commits adultery go to prison? Should children of parents of white collar crimes (e.g., Ponzi Schemes) be denied access to schools? Should Christians support laws against gays, so as not to encourage them? (eg., not being able to hold property like real estate, being fired simply because your gay, blocked from education). In Agape, Stephen,

  3. Wait a minute here. I am with you on this one Ken. I want to feel special. I think Luke wanted to feel special too. When people date these days, people of various sexual orientations have physical attractions and physical intercourse with many partners. I am a senior and a widow. Now that I am in my twilight years, I want to feel special and beautiful and cherished. I find it hard to accept promiscuity.

    Many young people of this world want to be admired for their beauty and their accepting attitudes. They want to be noticed, just like a male from my generation still wants to be noticed by someone he’s interested in. In the old days, he would impress her with the qualities she would admire. Males in my day slept around before marriage. Women accepted this. They also hoped and expected their Bridegroom to be nailed to the cross, the Christian idea of marriage. They expected their Bridegroom to settle down, give up fishing in the sea for other women and pledge to love, honour and cherish his chosen Bride.

    For the most part, I think this is still true of both sexes and differently gendered people. People want to feel special and when they feel cherished, they in return focus all their attention on making their partner feel cherished. Having intimate relations, whether that is heart to heart talk under the cover of darkness or body to body talk under or on the blanket, with another while one is married, puts a big strain on one’s marriage.

    When the travelling Rabbi met the Woman at the Well, something happened. The Woman was a Samaritan from an adulterous nation. In those days, Jews did not have any social intercourse with Samaritans. Being noticed by a prominent Rabbi who engaged in and shared intimate theological intercourse with her, made the Woman feel special. The Woman felt so special, she wanted to have that kind of feeling every day. She ran off, proud of her encounter, telling everyone that she had met the Christ.

    In the Woman’s youth and in her zeal to proclaim the coming of the Messiah, the Woman failed to hear everything the Rabbi said to her. More importantly, she was not privy, she was in the dark, to what he said to his disciples when they saw him speaking with her and offered him something to eat.

    The two verses that the Woman failed to hear are these:

    “If you knew the gift of God, and who it is that is saying to you, ‘Give me a drink,’ you would have asked him, and he would have given you living water.” (John 4:10)

    “My food is to do the will of him who sent me and to complete his work.” (John 4:34).

    The Rabbi in John’s Fourth Chapter is preparing the way for the Bridegroom—the CHRIST– so he can come as a gift of God to her, a widow, and redeem her who has been bitterly treated–and choose her for his Bride. Indeed the Woman in tears stands outside the tomb…looking for her Lord. She is alone. She has been mistaken. She has supposed, imagined this Rabbi she speaks with outside the tomb when it is barely light and whom she holds dear, to be the Gardener, her husbandman–the Bridegroom. He assures her that he has not taken her Lord’s body. He is not the Bridegroom. She must go find him and tell him and the other disciples this news because the Woman’s Rabboni must rise and appear before him, his father and her adon, her Lord–the one she has chosen–that will not be taken away from her (John 20:17; Luke 10:42).

    At the end of John’s Gospel, Jesus appears before Simon Peter and asks him. “Do you love me more than these? Jesus wants to feel special and wants Simon Peter to be fully committed to being the Shepherd of Jesus’ lambs, nobody else’s (John 21:15-17).

    Simon Peter is finally ready to embrace and cherish the Light. He is no longer angry, and in denial about the prophet the Woman anoints with her tears (Luke 7:39). All is forgiven. He forgives Nicodemus, the Rabbi, Jesus hails as the greatest Teacher of all Israel, for conversing intimately with Jesus under the cover of darkness. How could he remain angry? Peter is so glad, the Great Fish, numbering 153 among so many others in the sea, got caught in his net and is beaming at him, making him feel chosen, special and like hot coal.

    Speaking with Jesus under the cover of darkness, Nicodemus prepared the way for Jesus (the Rock, The Anointed Teacher, The FISH) and the disciples to unite with grace and liberate their followers from the tyranny of the Law and social practices that keep them from loving and forgiving one another as the TRIUNE GOD full of GRACIOUS HOSPITALITY intends.

    Living as God intends means we Christians have to go and tell our Story boldly and let our young people see the LIGHT that takes great delight in her chosen Bridegroom, her Father and theirs (Psalm 128:3; John 15:1). Covering up the LIGHT keeps people sinning daily. Jesus loves sinners and wants them to be proud to share and live the Christian Story that indeed has a happy ever after ending. The Woman’s Bridegroom did not forsake her. Her choice was not taken from her and Martha had nothing to worry about.

  4. Margot Herren

    I want all prayer warriors to start praying for the Bachelor and Bachelorette be taken off TV. How anyone can watch this orgy is beyond me. I’ll start. Dear Heavenly Father, I pray hearts will be changed from the networks and all who participate in this production. I know you don’t want anyone to be exposed to the lies that Satan has told these people it’s all right to do whatever feels good. Your word tells us doing these things is harmful. Bless them Lord. I Jesus name Ame

  5. S J Kornegay


  6. 1 Corinthians 6:9-11 and 1 Cor 3:16-17 are clear in dealing with sexual sin. Those “Christians” who practice unrepentant sin will be destroyed by the HS and will not inherit the Kingdom of God. This foolhardiness is the result of the fatal doctrine of “once saved always saved”. It was a lie when Augustine introduced it and when John Calvin expanded on it. It’s a fatal flaw many televangelists and denominations feed to their flocks who seem to live worldly lives and feel totally justified in their sin.
    They and their teachers will have a rude awakening at the judgment. Where their admonition “don’t judge me will fall on deaf ears. Praying our narcissistic society wake up soon.

  7. After studying through Judges all quarter, her statement that she “won’t stand for” anyone else judging her exposes the very heart of sin and depravity–we won’t allow any judgment from anyone, and that includes God’s judgment. “There was no king in Israel; everyone did what was right in his own eyes.” The problem is, when the righteous Judge of all the earth judges and when the King of kings sits on the throne, no one can pull the “I won’t stand for it” card any more. One day every knee will bow and every tongue will confess that Jesus is Lord.

  8. Sharon

    She also said in one blurb that she had sex and knows it is great, so one of these guys needs to come on and love her up and be sexy with her.. something to that affect. She has played so straight that I think the men might be scared of her. I never miss an episode!

  9. Nathan,
    I think you have hit the nail squarely on the peg here when you say “One day every knee will bow and every tongue will confess that Jesus is Lord.”

    When the Rabboni’s disciples finally realize who the Bridegroom is (John 3:29) and welcome Christ as the Bridegroom, the Rock, and his Bride as the Rockette, the harvest will begin (John 4:34), the wine will be poured and the great Wedding Feast will begin. Harvesters know that on the threshing floor, there are two rocks that grind the grain–one is male and the other is female.

    When the Bride sat down at the Rabboni’s feet she listened. At first, she, her sister Martha and the disciples were confused. They like the people down through history thought that Martha asked the Rabboni to commission Mary to help Martha serve because Martha recognized her LORD as the Christ, the Son of God and knew that there was much work ahead for them (John 11:27). And as the Christ, the King of Kings, Martha like many thought he was entitled to many brides and concubines to help with the work(SOS 8:12).

    Down through the ages, many disciples may have thought Christ took Mary as his Bride, as his second wife or concubine. But that didn’t seem fair or right. So they turned Martha into an unmarried housewife because Jesus taught against divorce and remarriage Yet as scripture confirms, Jesus loved both Martha and her sister Mary (John 11:5). So what did God and the prophets expect the Son of God to do?

    As the Gospel of John reveals, Jesus the Rabboni tells the Woman who had sat at his feet and anointed him so sensually, he has not stolen her Lord’s body. He is not the Gardener, her husbandman–the BRIDEGROOM (John 20:15; John 15:1; Psalm 128:3).

    The Rabboni has a vineyard and Martha is his vine, his beloved, his Lady, his Martha full of Grace. Mary has been bitterly treated as were Naomi and Ruth (Ruth 1:20). Like Ruth and the Shulamite, Mary has returned and she need not cry. Indeed, the Johnanine Rabboni has gone ahead and prepared a place of her. She need only let go of him. She has her own vineyard (SOS 8,12) she need not hold onto the old sinful idea that a man can have a thousand wives and expect his wives to be faithful to him alone (John 20:17). She must go…and tell his brothers that the Rabboni must rise and appear before his Father and hers (Psalm 128:3; John 15:1, John 20:17). And indeed when Jesus appears to Simon…the disciples shout, “The Lord has indeed risen and He has appeared to Simon!” (Luke 24:34).

    Down through the ages, the disciples have made disciples of every generation by baptising them into the ecumenical household of faith with the name of the Father of Christ, the name of the Son of the Father, and the Holy name of the Father’s Bride. When arguments arose as to who was the Christ, Paul set Chloe’s household straight (1 Corinthians 1:11-15). Christ is not divided. Christ exemplifies unity. Other Teachers have simply told their disciples straight, saying they were “off the Mark”. Indeed, Mark 15:21 got me on the Mark!

    The choice Mary made was not taken from her. She did not want to serve in Martha’s vineyard. Mary wanted her own vineyard and she wanted to cherish and be cherished by her own LORD, She wanted to choose her bachelor, her STAG. Once her choice was made, she was sure he and her children would vindicate her choice…(Luke 7:35) and she and her children and friends and his would confess that she had indeed chosen well. Everyone invited to the Wedding Feast would confess that Jesus is the MAN, her chosen BRIDEGROOM, and the Father of all those Born Again (John 3: 1-11). Their marriage was to bless and unite the disciples and the Rabboni as the only begotten Son of the Father, the Stone that the chief builders thought was a stumbling block and an offence, pure foolishness, opposed to wisdom (Matthew 16:18; 23; Acts 4:11; 1 Corinthians 1:18;23).

    Those judging the Bride, the Bachelorette of the Gospel and her choice as foolish and offensive…would remain by their own judgment outside gnashing their teeth. NOW does this mean, that the children of the Bride and Groom can do what they like and sin everyday?

    Well as parents know, children have to make their own mistakes and learn from them. Parents can only lead by setting a good example and forgiving their children and helping them learn from their mistakes, their sins. If someone feels judged, they are not feeling very loved. They may be feeling guilty and full of remorse. Or they may be feeling unjustly judged.

    You may imagine how the Woman felt when both Simon and the Teacher she anointed judged her as a sinner (Luke 7:36-50). There most likely was a lot of tension in the air because the Teacher held up a mirror in the form of a parable to help those gathered for the party to see Simon, the Woman, and him, her beloved Teacher more clearly. The Teacher declared that Simon had judged correctly, saying the One who has been forgiven the most loves the most. Of course if one does not think one has done anything wrong, why should one worry or fret? They may be the one called to forgive because people were mumbling to themselves. “Who is this who also forgives sins?”

    Ah…if one loves, one wants their beloved to praise them and to redeem them…take delight in them. If their beloved is constantly judging them and finding fault and rebuking them or comparing them with others more righteous, more viral, more chaste, more beautiful…they will feel inferior, less valuable, unworthy, like the worst sinner, who has no place at the table or at any feast. I think this is what the Pharisees and the Sanhedrin may have been doing. It was the job of the Pharisees to hold up the Law and keep the children of Judah, Israel and Samaria faithful to the Law of the Pentateuch and the Oral Traditions. The Pharisees were the Fathers of the Law and the Oral Traditions so they saw it as their job to judge lawbreakers and condemn sins and sinners.

    When one finally makes the choice and it is the right choice, the Bride takes delight in her Bridegroom and he her (SOS 5:9-10). On their wedding day, they stand up before their chosen Rabboni and vow to love, honour and cherish one another. They promise to take delight in one another, they don’t promise to sit in judgment. If one falls and one does, the other forgives, lifting them up, seeking to understand what has brought this judgement on. It may be that the judger has felt neglected, or made to feel foolish or diminished in some way (see the book Cherish by Gary L. Thomas).

    As followers of Christ, Christians are instructed to see Christ as the Bride and Bridegroom–their Father and Mother. They should then honour their father and their Mother in Christ and their elder brother, the Rabboni. In my view, you may call it foolish, I think a Christian bachelorette should be looking for a bachelor that she will love, honour and cherish…and he her. And yet, I also think, she need not overlook the guy who has judged her. She may have judged him as unworthy suitor too quickly and unfairly. He may be one God has in mind for her.

  10. Nathan Williams

    Linda, I appreciate you saying I hit the nail–but I don’t know where you got all the rest of your post above. Respectfully, you are making a mess out of the Scripture! So many things you wrote above are nowhere in the Bible and many of them are outright contradictions of the Bible. I encourage you not to read the Book as a collections of allegories but simply take it at face value.

    No romantic love exists between Jesus and Martha or Jesus and any physical woman. The church is His bride.

    • Oh, I am so sorry you think I made a mess of the Scripture. I should have remembered the KISS principle. I don’t know why you think no romantic love exists between Jesus and any one physical woman. As you say the church is His bride. Ephesians 5:22-23 says wives are to submit to their husbands as to the lord .For the husband is the head of the wife as Christ is the head of the church, his body, of which he is the Savior. You know Jesus’ name is important and that he ROCKS. Psalm 18:1-3; Psalm 18: 46 and He is the Rock that the chief builders rejected (Mark 12:10-11; Psalm 118:22).

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